I don't know what I'm doing! Another Bomb!

[gsr1]

Thank TS,

You have given me quiet alot of info. Your story is so painful I hope that you'll someday have some happiness in your life, This situation is still very fresh and don't know what to expect, but I am willing to go some of the distance, he said didn't want my help but he has put me through alot of pain in the last 11 years and I have always bailed us out but he needs to man up this time.

I don't know any form of abuse that he has gone through and don't really believe there are any. His brother had affairs when he was married he left his wife for so many years lived with OW but before that had a child out of wed lock 40 years ago, family found out accidently when that child was taken to hospital and authourities were given the info about father and it came out then. But he eventually came back to wife after many years away, he was the eldest of the bunch, believe father also had affairs when H was growing up, so to me this is just par for the course, he sees nothing wrong with this situation, this is just the way of the men in his life so why should this situation be wrong? I really believe this is just an excuse I do not believe this story about sex addiction, read some info and he said he has only been unfaithful to me twice in 19 years of marriage and this last one but this became EA and PA, he does look at porn on internet and has downloaded some on his laptop, that part makes me uncomfortable because my son uses his laptop when H is at home.

So I'm thinking that he is just a typical man(dog), and using this sex addiction as excuse for bad behavior and I have told him he needs to man up and take responsiblity for all his actions because I am not bailing him out anymore, I've giving him the reigns to our lives an it will be up to him to figure out how to get us out of the hell he's put us in these last 11 years. But just in case will continue to read up on sex addiction and I truly hope it will not apply to this situation.

Thanks again,
gsr1