Sue, On one end of the spectrum here we have Karen, who's H has been 100% direct about wanting a D, going out with OW, etc. Then on the other end, there is your H, who is still trying to keep things hidden and under the table. Neither sitch is easy, but I think yours has to be worse of 2 evils.
Joie
I agree with you, Joie, but my H's openness is tough on our kids though! And I hate to say it, but I wonder if the reason why Sue's H is more secretive is because Sue's H still thinks their R can work out, and my H is 100% (or close) invested in having a R with OW instead of me. Karen