Actually, I wasn't suggesting that LL do anything right now. I was suggesting ways for her to avoid being a WW.
But, I'm not sure why you are suggesting that she be less than direct with her H about where she is right now. Perhaps you aren't familiar with LL's sitch. She has been trying everything under the sun, and nothing works. She has DB'd meticulously and consistently for extended periods of time, and nothing changes. She has tried new things, and nothing changes. She has pushed herself in pretty much any way possible R-wise to improve her M, and nothing changes. In my view, it is a good thing that she is actually focused on trying to change her life into one that she wants rather than one that she suffers. Maybe it will even help her M. If not, it will still certainly help her.
Maybe as you suggest she is not at the After the Last Resort stage. I'm not sure exactly what that means. But I'd say that she is seriously considering leaving her M, and that she will probably make a choice about that within a year or less. Of course, I can't really *know* that. It is just how it seems to me based on my having known LL for many years and always keeping up with her posts. If I had to lay money, I'd say she's reaching the end unless something really changes. I'm not sure why you think it is a bad idea to give her husband a head's up about this. Her goal is to NOT be a WAW whose husband doesn't know what hit him.
