I agree with Sarah, and maybe try to clean the closets out as much as possible. I think that is something that I didn't do pre-affair with H is listen to his complaints and try to respond to them, even if the closet is still full but you try to improve it, or you buy a little fan and the situation improves even a little, I think it shows your H that you are listening to him and trying to make him happy, which is something that I wasn't doing in my marriage (and have been working on in the past months), I hate to admit! Karen
