Things haven't changed much...I'm still afraid to upset the apple cart full of apples that aren't good enough to make a christmas pie. Constantly questioning if it is as bad as I fell it is or if I just can't get the mud colored glasses off. From my words above you may be able to figure out that I'm begining to take steps toward where I want to be in my life. I've realized that the kinds of things I've been doing to gal have been wonderful and helped me along the way but now I find myself in a holding pattern with h. If I can't motivate him to better our r (or recreate one is more like it at this point)I'll have to motivate myself, decide who I want to be and go for it. Enough letting this m drag me down. I'm going to start living the rest of my life now.
Hi lost.....
What specifically would you like to change in your marriage.
What would you like to have more of...What would you like him to do?
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(1) CLEAR WARNING: Write H an email that says, "H, I am very unhappy in our M. It is not working for me. I am seriously thinking about leaving. Count this as fair warning. If our M doesn't change into an R that works for me, I will pursue a D."
This is the AFTER THE LAST RESORT TECHNIQUE. It does NOT seem like you are there yet. You only do this when you definitely want a divorce and are done doing anything yourself.
GAL is a good thing. Especially if you are doing things to make you happy. It isn't enough for a marriage though. There are other things you can do as well...depending on your relationship goals.
Last edited by sgctxok; 03/11/0805:41 PM.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
