Sara, I know this. I've known for YEARS that we do not communicate well at all - we do at times, but we don't at others. I have asked, even PLEADED, with H that we seek some sort of MC. What's the female equivalent to a man saying he would give up his left n*t...?? Well if it was my left breast, I would do it! I want to be able to always, not just sometimes, calmly talk with and understand him, and vice versa.
BUT H WILL NOT. HE JUST WILL NOT DO IT.
However, I did check out the website....thank you....and the program will be in Sacramento this July and again in October. Oh how I wish.....
H is here still. He's actually sleeping at the moment; he came off graveyard this morning. I'm doing laundry and about to work on emptying and reorganizing the closets in a moment to free up more space. I was able to empty one of the closets in our room yesterday for him, and he seemed to appreciate that. So I'm continuing this with other areas in the house. I already knew from his complaints that this is what he wanted, and like I said, I tried telling him Friday night that I would work on it this week. He interrupted (why, I don't know - he often does and it irritates me) and didn't let me finish talking though, and that's when my attempt at communication broke down.
Oh, and as for the fan (geez, a fan! How stupid is this?!!), I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I'm damned if I just go and buy another fan myself because I would have spent money that didn't need to be spent since he already has one (trust me, H will give me sh*t about it - I even asked him last night while I was at the store if he wanted me to get one, and he said no), and I'm damned if I don't because he's still uncomfortable without one being here.
Either way, it's lose/lose. If I can't go out and get him a stupid fan, he needs to get the one he has from (friend)'s house. PRONTO!
I have more to post, but I will do it later tonight while H is at work. He's working graveyard shift all this week.
Thanks again, Michelle and Sara. I really appreciate your support!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
