Broken Tree WAW- MLC

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I think the worst thing about your situation is that you are still together in the same house.

It's strange how these things work...for me, I am convinced that W and me could have worked on our issues together, but she felt she needed to move out. In fact, she has now told me that in her mind, the outcome was decided...she was leaving for good.

In your sitch, it sounds like you could work better on your issues while apart...but you are staying together (in complete and utter misery).

I don't know what your solution is, Tree...it's just an observation.

Your W appears to have the best of all worlds:
- she has food and shelter
- she can come and go as she pleases
- she has ample opportunity to torture you in order to make herself feel better

I agree with fish that there is no incentive for her to change...she appears to be perfectly happy with this dynamic, and it could go on for a very very VERY long time.

So, what are you going to change, shock her with, blow away a stereotype that she has of you? I'd bet your DB coach has asked you the same question...