Your W sounds pretty unhappy. It seems to me when I read about your W and other WAS that most seem to be unhappy. My H is going through guilt now. You would think they might realize: Hey, maybe this unhappiness, guilt, and sleeplessness might mean maybe we our making the wrong choices in our marriage??? Do you think she might realize that she is happier with you than being at least mentally separated from you like it sounds she is now? Karen