Thanks for answering my questions. While I can see your point about focusing on uni right now, what I've disvcovered is that there is no good time for the D. It is going to take up a lot of time and mind-space. It is going to be stressful and unpleasant and sad. But I have actually found that my FEAR of it was far worse than the reality. At least once I started working towards it, I felt like I was taking back some control.
The truth is, life happens. After you finish your course, something else will come up - work, the kids...And it won't be a good time. As you've said, you can get along quite well except for this one (albeit it major) issue.
Al, what helped me was finally really accepting that my M was over, that we were D'd in all but name. A D couldn't make us less married than we already were!
I so hope that you can have even a better M with your H one day, but I don't think that's going to happen right now. I worry about you because you just don't seem to be able to let go while still being M (I was the same, btw).
I am thinking of you, Nicola
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