Thanks Sandi2 - I have been trying to take queues from him just like you suggested. It's really hard since he is not forthcoming with anything and really never has been. H is a police officer so his job is obviously extremely high stress. He loves it but it wears him down and he shuts his emotions off because of it but then he can't turn them back on at home. It's a major problem for us.
Mishka, Retro might be a great way for you H to get back in touch with those emotions. The method that they give you for communication focuses on describing feelings in a non-threatening way.
