Dom, When we first married things were great. But we did not have long to enjoy each other as we became pregnant from the honeymoon. 1/2 way through the pregnancy W changed, although now I would say her maturity may have passed mine for a bit in ertain aspects of life like retirement. When my daughter was born, W was so overprotective and dominating about all issues involving our daughter I feel she pushed me away. Anything I did with her wasn't right or I should have done it the W's way. This pushed me away for the first year or so. I still cooked dinner and played with her but didn't give her a bath but about 2 times in the first year and a half. One night W made a comment about me not giving our Daughter baths. This got me thinking... and since she would not talk to me I decided to take it upon myself to figure out what is wrong with our marriage. W has always been a couch sitter, but the last four months I was at home it was like she grew roots into the couch (if that makes sense.) I think the roots came when I started trying to address and/or at least get her to talk about what was wrong and what we could do to fix it. Same anwser every time "I don't know, I just need some time to figure things out." The things that used to work for us, well... We used to go out together a lot even if it was just to a movie, or jump in the car and go to Florida for the weekend. I have tried to plan trips, make dinner dates, etc... W always has an excuse or will start a fight a couple of days before we leave and then the trip was off. I would love to do those things again, but I would have to do them by myself. No fun for.. well we might as well say since the Honeymoon. Just a couple of things I have figured out, W has alot of built up anger toward me because of arguments and things of the past. Before we seperated the only things we really argued about were things that happened over a year ago. Ex: My mom put my daughters car seat in the front seat ONE time, my brother(BY HIMSELF) had to much to drink one night and ran his truck into a wall so he was no longer allowed to watch my daughter, I bought a camper and W didn't want me to(2 years ago, I shouldn't have done it and I know that now but she still holds it against me). Stuff like that. I hope this anwsered your questions. Any advice on the question from my first thread?
