Have a nice day at work. Following your sitch but don't post much because I tend to get a little negative as you probably have noticed. Just to let you know that I am pulling for you and your kids. You deserve to be happy. Prior to reading the book and especially prior to the bomb, I would have read your sitch and said something like get the hell out of dodge and don't look back, your husband is a so and so etc......However, today the kinder and gentler John has gone through alot and even though our head knows what actions need to be taken, our heart is pulling us in another direction. I write this in response to your question "What do I do now" which you ask on a semi regular basis. We can only go with the information you share.....the evidence is overwhelming. BUT, the heart portion of our response we get from our sitch....that is what is interesting about this site and the folks on it. At this point in my sitch and probably most of our sitches the most important and probably most difficult goal for us is to really GAL and lovingly detach. I reread the book recentlly and noticed that I am not really committed to any particular "method". I find that is also true with most posters. How hard are we actually DBing. Are we doing the difficult things that need to be done and doing them consistently? In my case my canclusion is an emphatic NO. Why? Well you touch on it in a couple of your posts. We are afraid that our DB actions will push our WAS away. A long winded post that I hope will make you think a little. I know writing it has helped me.
