What about the kids?

[ammojmc]

I agree. I don't know what the children are going to do and as for her getting a place for just her then that will have to be her decision. Although Iwill not leave the children with her if she does not have enough room for them. They are older and will need a space in each house that they can call there own.

The whole thing that sparked this conversation about the kids staying with me or her was my father(who rarely talks to the children) was online one day and talked to the children and took my D12 shopping online and also offered to do the same with my S15. After which both were really excited that they got to spend some quality time talking to their grandpa and conveyed this to thier mother who in turn attacked me and accused my father of trying to buy thier affection and convince them to stay with me.

This is absurd, I have always told the children that they will have the choice when they want to decide but as for now and being overseas that they have time to think about what they want.

In the end I know that I am the parent and that I will make the decision that I think is best for them depending on the living sitch that my W has set up. I know that the children and my W may not like the decsion but if it is what is best for the children then I am ready and willing to fight that fight.