M-- Just wanted to drop in and see how you were faring--with grace, as expected! Good luck with the party. This is my first time back on the boards in months, and I still have to stay away for awhile. If you or any old friends would like to check in, you can reach me atEDITED, EMAIL ADDRESS NOT ALLOWED
I SURVIVED!!!!!! the party was a success for the most part, I'd say. S3 got a wee bit overwhelmed...too many people in his space I think. but D3 lapped up all the attention, and S3 did have some fun at least. My house absorbed the kids better than I expected, although, yes, it was crazy. and the parents seemed to have a nice time as well, so all is good.
I did find myself slipping into an old pattern with H once or twice, not in a good way, and i snapped at him once but really overall we did well together. But next year, oh yeah, we'll have the party at a place. with twins, its just too many people. unless I want to do separate parties, which I really don't want to do right now...figure when they are older we likely will, but not for now.
anyway, can breathe easier. so now I just have to get thru this week...the week of the bomb....the week of a lot of really tough memories. but I need to let that river flow, feel them, and then can move on cleanly.
I do have a huge proud, btw. When h was leaving he said he'd be by on wedn instead of tuesday this week because wedn is the twins actual b-day. my proud is I did NOT snap back at him about how last year he didn't want to be there on their b-day, why now? (last year he left on their birthday for a week with the whore, I thought it was all work, and he spent their birthday with HER). so that is progress.
off to make more cupcakes, this time for the twins to take to school tomorrow. I swear I am the cupcake queen I have made so many the last few days. lol.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
So glad the party went well. You can now enjoy the memory - I always find I enjoy the party so much more in hindsight!!!!!
I hear you about last year. The year I found out about H's A he had just spent my youngest D's birthday with OW overnight on business; last year I just couldn't enjoy my D's birthday because of thinking about what H had been doing the previous year. I am still mad at him for destroying the happiness that I should have when it is my youngest D's birthday.
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Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
thanks ladies! I'll tell you, I am cupcaked out. lol. I have decided on wedn instead of more cake/cupcakes, I'm just going to stick a candle in a hoodsie for each of them (for those who don't know what they are, they are individual ice cream cups). lol
saffie, I know you understand all too well how awful that is, to have them violate such a special day. I think h realizes what a jerk he was now, and I certainly won't bring it up. but I'm also glad I'm not him and would NEVER do something like that. hopefully it is something the kids will never ever know about. they shouldn't ever, there is no reason for them ever to find that out, assuming he doesn't make similar choices in the future. don't think he will.
therapy tomorrow...woo-hoooo! so much to talk about. so much to deal with.
oh, and I am trying to figure out easter. I have easter, based on the holiday schedule I made up (and h agreed to). he got thanksgiving last year, so he had them that whole day (and night prior). I figured I'd ask if he wanted the kids on friday night instead since I'll want them saturday into easter. not sure when i'm going to bring that up. I'm also toying with the idea of asking him if he wants to come over first thing in the morning for the egg hunt. the only other people I'll have for easter this year are my parents, and they won't come till the afternoon, so it shouldn't be awkward. I'm in a much different place than I was in at christmas...I could NOT have him over christmas morning, not for love or money. but I think I might be able to handle easter. hmmmmm. need to think on that some more.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
[quote=SallyM]thanks ladies! I'll tell you, I am cupcaked out. lol. I have decided on wedn instead of more cake/cupcakes, I'm just going to stick a candle in a hoodsie for each of them (for those who don't know what they are, they are individual ice cream cups). lol
Oh I know there were a lot of people that wouldn't have any idea what on earth you were talking about, but for me it was a blast from the past but in a good way! A hoodsie...ahhhhhhhhh
Oh Sweetie, take care of M this week. You're so right. Dealing with your feelings and processing your grief and anger will help to get you past this. And of course, celebrating the birthday of the twins should also be a welcome diversion!
I am still mad at him for destroying the happiness that I should have when it is my youngest D's birthday.