Matt... it's probably difficult for people to give you advice, when you havent really said anything about the actual problems in your marriage.
You havent even said what "the bomb" is, that she dropped.

Maybe you should start with, What did she actually say, specifically, and what are the reasons you think she said it?

Then AFTER that, you could get into more complicated questions, like

  • why do you think she just needs "time"? (as opposed to some kind of action on your part?)
  • what are these "real problems" that you allude to, but somehow dont bother to mention?
  • why do you think "going dark" is going to solve your problems?




Last edited by Dom R; 03/11/08 01:48 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle