This is such a difficult place to be in. I feel for you and can identify with some of how you are feeling. My W. is WAW and there is a sense of a lot of emotional distance (yet there is a friendly connection most of the time that has some depth too). It's very confusing trying to find the place of not pushing too much, but also not being inert.
Hang in there. I hope that you find you are able to have a reconnect with her in a positive way.
