My wife and I have been seperated for 1 month. We've seperated in the past but always put a bandaid on the real problems. She dropped the BOMB but she had no where in our area to go so I left. We did 3 assesment sessions with a MC. Last one was this past Friday. Now I am once again in limbo waiting on her to decide if she wants to start counsuling or get a D. I stopped chasing, ILY, frequent calls, and all the other stuff about 3 weeks ago. I am now seriously wanting to go dark, the only problem is my Daughter is with WAW. I want to call every night to tell my little girl I love her and good night but I feel it is giving W some sort of security. I will be ok with not talking to my daughter for a couple of days (for the sake of my marriage) but I am concerned that W will view this negatively. Can anyone help me with this? Just to add a little more.. 1 year ago she wanted to become a stay at home mom, I agreed and within the first month it changed to full time student part time mom. Since then she has been completly consumed with school and spending time with study friends. How long should I keep paying all of the bills? I want to be patient and give her the time she needs but I sometimes feel she don't want to throw in the towel because she is afraid she won't get to finish college. She says she would never do that, but she has a very self-protecting and gaining personality. I only make enough money to pay our bills and put a little in savings so I can't even afford to GAL. Everything takes money even if it's just the gas to get there. Do I tell her I will pay the bills for another month or two but she needs to be looking for a job, or do I just keep paying and being depressed sitting at my family members' house?
