Looking back over your posts, I'm not seeing where you have EVER been able to truly detach, and let him stew in his own mess for even a few days at a time, much less the weeks or few months that it may take. (It took THREE MONTHS with my wife).
I could be wrong, but I honestly think that if you could do that, and maintain your boundaries, that he may come around. It's always "may," because you can't control him, but unless I missed it in your past threads, I'm not seeing where you've ever truly done that?
