Sandi's Here in Piecing from Almost WAW

[sandi2]

Well, Dom, if that is the way you see me, then we need to just end it. I don't agree with what you have said or the solutions....if that is what you call it.

You did not write one line, in reply to the 25+ lines I wrote on potential positives for your future.

I don't know that the heck the 25 lines of

potential positives

you are talking about.

I can't believe you actually went back to count the lines! I don't think I saw those. The only thing that I remember you giving that I thought were your instructions were the same ones you gave over in SSM.

Sandi... there are only a few limited ways you can interact with your H when you need someting, generally speaking. hopefully, i will cover all of them:

("I want something...")

I deserve it as a person
I deserve it as your wife
It would make me really happy if...
It would make me really UNhappy if....
I'll give you something, if you give this to me

I guess we just can't get on the same page, DomR.

I have been upbeat ever since I've come back to Piecing and I feel like you just smashed me down.If I went back to pick apart everything I've asked or said that you never made a reply to....then we would be back and forth on this forever. You were the one I turned to in my excitement last Saturday when at last I felt the first bit of hope. Did you say one word about that? No, in fact, you never said, "Glad to hear it....happy the depression is lifting"....nothing. So don't get up in the air about my not replying to particular things you have stated. Remember the time you asked me one question and I had not been back to my thread in a day and you kept pushing until other people began to tell you to lay off?

You never believed I was in MLC; I felt I could not make you understand or get you to accept the fact that depression goes hand in hand with Fibromyalgia; I don't recall that you ever said anything about or believed it could be chemical depression; (I will agree that my envirnment adds a great deal to it.); and now you do not believe I am ready to work on my M. And, if fact, that is the message I am getting in your posts ever since I've come back over here. Why? B/c I came back to Piecing? The other people seem to be happy for me, why can't you? B/c you think I have made no progress. Well, honey, it has been one hell of a year for me, so I don't care if you believe it or not.....I have made progress.

Then you reminded me how much time and effort you have put into trying to help me. However, it seems to be either Dom's way or no way. I am tired of the arguring. I am tired of trying to get you to understand or to see that your way does not always work with every single person. Apparently you are tired of me not being "ready to work on my M" and doing all that your great wisdom has told me to do.

You spoke of me not being solotion-based....why...b/c I don't do it your way? A little arrogrant, don't you think? As I've told you in the past, you are very pushy--almost to the point of demanding. You even practically pushed me out of the Piecing forum, the last time i came here, and started a place over in the SSM for me. See, I don't forget everything, but, you may say you don't recall that!

To accuse me of not being able to relay word for word or play by play of something that might have happened 30 years ago is b/c it is an excuse and it's really all about my "feelings", I think is bunk. I rememember things and the events, Dom, but not to the point that I want to try to put it all down on paper so you will have the scoop! However, you think it is just an excuse. Ok.....fine. But don't tell me that I don't want to work on my M. And, don't tell me that I have not done anything to change.

You do a lot of talking to others about their stitch....giving Dr. Dom's advice and yet you tell very little about your own. When asked once, you said that you did not want your S to read what you had to say some day. Well, has it ever occurred to you that I might have the same problem????

I'm through DomR. Thanks for all the time you have put into trying to "help" me with my M. But, now you can go work on your own.