Vacillations of a WAW Come Home IV

[sage]

jethro -- hmmm...can't wait to read the next post!

My W said she wouldn't lie to me again, but she didn't seem very convincing. That's why I feel there are things she's not telling me. And it's not that I think she's cheating on me any longer. It's more about her feelings or things that may have transpired in the past that she's not telling me. In terms of acting authoritarian...yes, I did that... And I'm sure my W probably didn't care for it, but you know what, I'm sick of the BS. I cannot remain with someone that does this, Char. So was there a "hidden" threat? Kind of...sorry to say...

so...this is where I am stuck most of the time. h has lied to me in the past -- not just the a. but other stuff too. some of it has been outright lying and some of it is lying of omission. I know for certain that there were some things that I probed him on/asked about that were none of my business or that I made FAR too much my business or that I made a big deal of...and I'm sorry for that....so, I guess I can see how he would feel as though he wanted to hide things from me for fear of my reaction or to keep himself seperate. NOW, though, post-a and post all of the crap, it tears me up to think that we will never get to the point where he can be honest with me ... I can't say for certain that he isn't -- it's just this voice in my head that says "is it really even remotely possible that these two people who carried on a secret affair for 6+ months just NEVER had contact again after I said not too?"

arrgh. Yes, it was wrong of me to threaten to tell her h. if they spoke again but that was 7 months of hell ago. I'm here. I haven't told anyone anything. is it time to be honest about the way that things really ended?

or, if not this....when? what will we be really honest about?

wow. hijacked your thread. Sorry

Sage