Let's think about BobbiJo a bit? What does she liek to do for fun, other than slip and slide on the ice? Are there any goals that youcould make that are just about you being you?
As far as you H goes, that's tricky. He seems to be serious, but that's nothing new, right? So this time, you are saying, I'll believe it when I see it. That's hard to argue with. At the same time, you don't want your reticence to drive hime away. So, it seems to me that you need to try to continue to have pleasant interactions, but there need to be boundaries, as well. The trick in my mind will be figuring out where to draw the line. The thing I think you need to keep clear is that you are not "punishing" him for what he is done, you are protecting yourself from being hurt until you feel you can trust him. I don't know if that helps at all....I hope Kalni shows up! She seems to have a way of understnding these these things!
