How are you, Neecy? I hope better. Sorry I couldn't respond any sooner. As you probably know, I was away this weekend and my H is here (not at this very moment though), so I haven't been able to get online, until now.

Originally Posted By: neecy22
I can do that, I think. But isn't this now going back on the boundaries that I set out?


By having no R talks? I don't believe so. Unless during your R talk last week, you told H that he had to pack up and leave. Is that what happened? Or did H say on his own that he was leaving?

If you didn't tell him to go, then NO R talks. Period. Avoid them when/if at all possible. Detach, detach, DETACH. Do not focus on the A. Do not focus on H. Focus on YOU, YOUR GOALS, and GAL. Boost your PMA. Think POSITIVE thoughts!

If you did tell H to leave because he refused to give up OW, well......Sweetie, I cannot tell you what to do here. That is your decision, and yours alone. You will have to think long and very hard about what you want to do.

Can you look past H, OW, the A, and tolerate it for the time being? Can you wait it out, let the A die on its own, while you focus on yourself and your lovely little girl?

Or can you not?

If you can't, then you've gotta do what you gotta do. You've got to decide and do what is best for YOU.

Do you want a D or do you want to save your M?

(((((((Neecy)))))))

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell