Quoting jethro: ... disappointed... Ouch, I hate that word. That's one of those ones my mom used on me when I was a kid. Hell, I'd rather she yell at me...
Does W know this?
Just curious. D5 has an odd fascination with calling herself and everyone else she knows "stupid". Doesn't bug me one bit, though I know she's testing me to see if I think that, and I assure her I don't. Anyway - H 'bout drops his fork everytime he's D's target. H gets MAD!
I told D5 why Daddy gets mad. His Dad called him that once or twice back in the day and it totally shows how that hurts him still.
D has expressed empathy and promises to not do that again.
Me calling H dumb would be like him calling me fat. Ain't gonna happen no matter how mad I get.
So, maybe tell W this, how you'd rather she yell at cha. Maybe share some other stuff about yourself. Maybe make yourself "vunerable"??? Maybe this would help W open up to you? Maybe make herself a little more vunerable?
I think going back to assessing W's actions instead of her words is a good idea. Right? It's about winning YOU back? If you're feeling icky, work on you?
Just some thoughts. Sorry you're hurting.
oh, btw ~ i'm psyched you told her you snooped. does W know about lies by omission? has W agreed to not do that? i worry that you saying "don't ever lie to me again" would serve to distance W like you're some kind of authoritarian? I wonder what she'd say if you asked her about that?
