Definitely being a good mom isn't about money. It's about time. Do you work full-time? As a single mom would you have to work more, or would you be able to reduce hours? As a single mom going to school wouldn't your life be work, grad school, possible dating so you don't feel "lonely," and then kids. That sounds like a lot to juggle....
Hummm.... you mentioned it would be easier to study and focus because you wouldn't have your husband and his issues in your face on a regular basis... but on the other hand you mentioned that he spends more time with the dog than with you and other members of the family? To me it sounds like you may have a quite a bit of independence in your marriage (?)..... I think an independent-type marriage might allow you more time for school.
Although..... divorce with H having half or full custody would definitely give you plenty of time for school.... that might be something to consider.
Wow, how do you have time for volunteering, reading books and social groups??? You probably do need some changes. School and working out at the gym will be good. Do you know if you've gone through MLC yet (I did... I think I still am in it!!! Sometimes I'm still acting like I'm 16 again ).
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