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I think that was a really good, positive talk that you had.

i dont think it's anti-db at all.

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He said he sometimes feels guilty because he said he wanted to be done, and now he has changed his mind and that he knows that most everyone would say that he should just stop seeing me and be 'done with it' [...] he is confused.


I'll say he's confused... i'm wondering where the heck he's getting this "most everyone" viewpoint.
"most everyone" I value an opinion of, would tell him he should quit messing around, be a man, and work on your marriage! \:D

Oh well. sounds like you did a great job of "just listening" to him.

Maybe next time the whole "I need a sabattical; i need to do things 'for me'" thing comes up.... ask him what things "for him" he thinks he needs to not be married for,to do, other than "screw other women"?

I'm probably not putting it very nicely; what I mean to say is, it might be a good idea to somehow show encouragement for the "each person needs to [be able to] stand on their own" idea. To show support for the idea that someone can be married, and have a GOOD marriage.. yet at the same time, still having their own individuality and interests come through, and be supported.

PS: I think it's a good thing you didnt just say "bye"

Last edited by Dom R; 03/10/08 10:32 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle