Not sure how to handle this

[mishka422]

So it's kind of like Marriage Encounter then, right?

He has said that we need help and that this is going to take a lot of hard work so I'm hopeful that we will find the kind of help he will be comfortable with.

My church has a program called Marriage Mentors that pairs a couple who is struggling with a strong couple who have been trained to help guide people through their differences based on the principles in the bible of marriage and respect. I would be very comfortable with that but I'm not sure he would. He might like a more traditional kind of therapy. I know him too well though, I'm afraid that he would shut down completely in traditional marriage counseling.

I'm just taking deep breaths and hoping we can find our way through this without slipping back into the old patterns that got us where we are.

Did any of you have a really hard time with your WAS touching you after they came home? The first day he was home he couldn't stop hugging me and now he doesn't seem to want to unless I initiate it then he's perfectly comfortable. That is a pattern with us. He stopped initiating a few years ago as he spiraled into his MLC. I just didn't realize that was what it was until he dropped that bomb!