Sarcasm? The word is vaguely familiar somehow... OK, I just finished the Questionnaire: Are you being emotionally abused? Some real strong YES answers here: "Does your partner treat you as if you are "less than" or inferior to her?" Let's see, does this count "I'm a manager now, you just wouldn't understand" I think we have a YES! "Does your partner routinely ridicule, dismiss, or disregard your opinions, thoughts, suggestions, and feelings?" Umm, when I put forth a thought on why our child does something the response is "everything doesn't have to be psychologized, you know" I think we have another YES! "Do you find yourself walking on eggshells? Do you spend a lot of time monitoring your behaviour and/or monitoring your partner's bad moods before bringing up a subject?" " I won't even dignify that one with an example, YES! "Does your partner insist on getting her own way?" C'mon does this stuff ever end! YES "Does your partner seem impossible to please" Umm, let's see, "stop doing these things (romantic gestures)for me, you only do it because you know I like it"! I'm thinkin' we've got another YES here! "Does your partner feel you are the one who is responsible for all the problems in the relationship?" You mean I'm not? Wow. Give this one a big YES! "Is your partner unable to laugh at herself? Is she extremely sensitive when it comes to...any kind of comment that seems to show a lack of respect"? OK, is my W writing this stuff? YES! "Does your partner find it difficult or impossible to apologize or admit when she is wrong?" No way, she's apologized twice in 17 years! I loved her latest with the kids "OK, I'm wrong and maybe I just won't make your dinner for you tonight" I'm going out on a limb here, calling this one a YES! "Does your partner pressure you for sex...?" Help I've fallen and I can't get up, that one's too funny!!!! Actually she would withhold sex or criticize my technique but I think that's another abusive tactic, is it not? So, that's my report and now the book says I'm supposed to sit down and write out every abusive thing she's done that comes to mind! Am I supposed to quit my job to do this? Where would all the time and paper come from? Btw, the above are just the ones that I can say YES to without thinking about. Hey, but if it's all my fault anyway why do I have to do any of this stuff? Something to ponder. Oh my gosh, I just realized I left out #8 Does your partner punish you by pouting, by withdrawing ... giving you the silent treatment?" Wow, I just thought that was her personality! #13 Does your partner frequently put you down in front of others and #14 Does your partner blame you for his or her problems? and #9 "does your partner often threaten to end the R" Never, she would just say "I"m not sure how I feel about you anymore" No crazy making there. OK I think I'm done!
