Law, I can understand that. There is a tough balancing act in some circumstances where we find out where we need to draw the line and where we are not going to far either way. I dont think you are in danger of that because you are a good person.
In my situation, I would like to do something for my W. Independence is so important to her that I have to be careful if I offer to pay for a meal. Even making an innocent comment that one of our kids had a good time with her can be misconstrued as some hidden agenda. Further challenging this is that she doesnt say anything to me but I am aware that something has changed in her interaction with me. And sometimes she says something to one of our children.
So, I let her take care of herself as is her fantasy. If she ever truly needs me though, sc$ew protocol or opinions and I am there. I am one tough doormat!!! LOL!
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
