Your husband sounds depressed to me. You shouldn't take his depression personally.
I don't. I know it's not just me he treats this way. But I can't NOT recognize what it does to this family.
I hate to be blunt, but does your husband contribute finanically to the household? Yes, that seems to be the one thing he does do and thinks he should get an A at being a good husband because of it does this help allow you to be a good mom and take care of things? yes and no. Being a good mom isn't about being able to spend money on your kids buying them toys and things. It's about making sure they are taken care of emotionally, physically and able to be a kid, having fun with them, entering their world once in a while to help teach them to learn in the real one etc. How would this change if you were divorced? let's see...during our seperation and tentative d...h still payed the bills and took out the trash. I did as I do now...everything else. Sure there'd be adjustments to make but I don't see us suddenly having to move to a 1br apt because of d Wouldn't it make it harder to study and focus on grad school? No! Infact it may make it easier to study and focus because I wouldn't have him and his issues in my face on a regular basis. These are things you should consider.... I'm trying to consider everthing...I still haven't reached a point where I'm ready to make a move...other than my going back to school and truly focussing on me in bigger ways. The volunteering, various book clubs and social groups I've had to keep me busy and distracted aren't enough anymore and really never were. I need to work on getting myself where I want to be...I need to grow.
What I intended in my post is that I'm starting to feel like I'm at the edge of the cliff...I'm either going to sit there forever or soon when I'm sure I can survive the jump and swim I'll do so.
LL
When did the EA end? roughly 6 years ago but I'm not certain of that either
