Sandi's Here in Piecing from Almost WAW

[Dom R]

Sandi, I'm not blaming you for "not remembering every detail".

I'm saying that it doesnt make sense to say "well, it doesnt work", when you cant remember what exactly "it" is.

If you cant remember, seems like the logical thing to do, would be to rediscover what "it" is. However, your reply seems to indicate, that you are not interested either in rediscovering what "it" is that doesnt work, nor are you interested in experimenting with what might work.

just b/c I said it did not work well for me and my H.....you say I don't want to work on my M! Ok, that is your opinion.

Your reaction, underscores my "opinion".

I wrote a lot of stuff in my post.
Instead of looking at the positive, solution-oriented stuff that I wrote, and thinking, "Hey, i may not agree with all of what he wrote, but there is something I could usefully pursue here";
you chose to pick a fight/play the victim instead.
In doing that, you have successfully avoided talk about things that you could work on to improve your marriage.
You did not write one line, in reply to the 25+ lines I wrote on potential positives for your future.

To repeat, with emphasis:

When faced with a choice between examining potential solutions/improvements to your marriage, or putting up barriers to improving your marriage (by derailing positive discussion on things you could work on )
you chose the anti-productive path, exclusively.

To have a useful discussion about your marriage here, AS WELL AS in order to have a good marriage ... you have to be willing to focus on the positive, and overlook the negative to some degree.

You dont seem to be willing to do that.