For probably the first time since the "bomb", you now have absolutely no reason to be doing anything out of any other motivation than that it is what YOU want to do.
That's awesome. Use it and enjoy it.
Make changes to your home that reflect YOU. Refuse to be bound by "that's the way we always did it." This is a time for a new way of life, so incorporate the new into your life for crying out loud.
If you have children, enjoy the heck out of them. Don't stop being Mom/Dad, but show them every moment of every day that your love for them is capable of stopping bullets if necessary, and that it's as endless as the stars.
Make a budget.
Now make a real budget.
Take care of your finances. They probably took quite a hit during the "crazy" times, now it's time to straighten them out. Do what you have to do to live within your budget. Resist the temptation to celebrate your independence by indulging EVERY whim (though the occasional whim-dulgence is good for the soul).
Find a way to exist civily (is that a word??) with the ex. The fireworks are over. All the dirty laundry has pretty much been aired. Time to find a way to make any future interactions as painless as possible. I try my best to treat my ex like I would the shopper in front of me at the grocery store. Polite, cordial, and as little small talk as possible. Seems to be working so far.
Most importantly, think positively about what lies ahead. Trust me, the worst is pretty much over. Time to breathe deeply and EMBRACE the future.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
