Did you Frank? Have you made the decision to end your marriage? Have you stopped being a provider?
Perception tends to become our reality. Take care in thinking thoughts like this too much. Accept your responsibility, assume none of hers.
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She has all her 'friends' and her EA buddy to help her feel better
First of all, and you know this, but her friends are hardly friends. Trust me, you are better off with NO friends than to have friends like hers.
Secondly, while I know it pisses you off and hurts like hell, there's way too much talk about the EA guy. It beats the snot out of you and leaves you in a bad frame of mind. Bad at least for someone who is trying his level best to move forward and clear his head.
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I feel bad, but also a bit better I guess because I am resigned to my fate.
Which is your wife leaving and you being alone? Good. Be fine with it, but make sure you mean it before you say it. You and I both know that this is the crucial part of pulling your head out of your arse long enough to do something productive with yourself.
Frank, I truly understand that you are in agony right now. I completely get that every action by this woman sticks another dagger straight in to your heart. We've said this before - this woman is seriously toxic to you right now.
Find someone Frank. Join a Divorce support group, start going to church (a church of your own, not the neo-church wife goes to), get yourself out somewhere will you will make a companion. For now, reach out to your kids. Because you need someone in your life Frank.
For crying out loud, I'll just blurt it right out. Talk to HIM. You've got some kind of background of faith, so this is not all new territory for you.
Time to step up to the plate my friend. Time for the visits from the friends who are NOT friends of the marriage to end. Hell Frank, she doesn't have to like it. It's a matter of it being YOUR home as well as hers, and it's a matter of self-preservation. I'd go so far as to encourage HER to go spend a few nights with her friend instead.
I guess it just seems to me like it's time for strong Frank to step in and take a turn at bat. Show her the guy that can build a company, the guy who can turn a project over before the deadline. And most of all, do it because it's good for YOU.
She's killing you, you know that, right?
Slowly but surely, she is killing you.
That should piss you off.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
