Hey W2G..I think thats its a very positive step that your H is including you in his work discussions! So is that a 180 for him? And if so, there must be a reason why he is doing it, perhaps he found it hard to talk to you about that stuff before, but needed to? And now he feels he can? What do you think?
Can you not accept these conversations and give him what he needs? Or have I misunderstood your question? For example, my BF suggested firmly that he sort out the mortgage in January, I was very surprised as he had always allowed me to do the finances (said I was better at it). I wasnt happy as I didnt think he would manage it (and its March and he still hasnt done it!) but I said "Sure! No problem" becuase I suspected it was an issue to him to take more responsibility for things. So I allowed him to. If that helps?
I personally dont think you need to erect boundaries to him about this, he has done enough boundary/wall building by himself and really, if you are still ML (and I am still jealous!!) then the boundaries about other stuff you put up are perhaps immaterial? I would be there for any contact he cares to bestow on you! (My BF has also mainly "downloaded" about work since he left, sometimes its a little dull, but at least I get to soak up the sight of him whilst he is there doing it!! So I am grateful) At least he is communicating with you.
As for goals, I struggled with this..but came up with 10 in my last thread! They were a mixture of stuff about us and stuff about me and a couple of mad dreams thrown in.
As Kalni says, try not to dwell on Easter. Christmas was hard on all of us it seems, it was the worst christmas I ever had. I also vowed to have the best christmas ever next year.
Thinking of you! We all are in the same leaky boat it seems, trying to pump the bilge :-)
