It really ws her not even being a decent human being that is so difficult for me, and likely for you. Not to blow my own horn, but my performance here has been really great, and I have gotten a lot of great feedback. I'm a public school administrator in civilian life, and the same think happens there. When I was in my house, I couldn't clean a toilet correctly, or plant flowers correctly. How can I go from excelling in two different areas of my life to being an absolute cretin at home? The asnwer is, IT'S NOT ABOUT ME, but like you, we're hard on ourselves, at least I am. I still think about the line from Born in the USA: "End up like a dog that's been beat too much, 'til you spend half your life just coverin' up". Her friends have also told me they thought I was an abused spouse, by "Miss empty love tanks". Sounds like you are too.
