Thanks everyone for all the posts! I was busy this weekend! Theoden, I am not too worried about anything H can say about my mothering, I have been documenting H's habits/hours as you suggest and he is moving out and in with OW so I think he will have a hard time in court getting anywhere with a "bad mother" argument. At this point, he is so focused on OW he doesn't seem to care much about child custody as well (but I am still documenting just in case!)
Saturday I did a 3 hour dance rehearsal! and then painted the sets for 5 or so hours after lunch with my S14. The only crimp in my day was when H showed up at 4:00 and said one of us had to come home to watch D8 b/c he had to go (see OW and spend the night). You'd think he'd want to spend the time with his kids his last weekend with them, but no. I was also upset b/c he came into my "sanctuary" which the theatre has been for me where I go to get away from H and all his mess.
I was taping up seams with my back to him when he showed up and just kept my back to him and kept taping when he was there. My S14 yelled Me, me and was thrilled to leave early after his 3 hours of painting and practically ran out of there, but for some reason H wanted me to acknowledge him or something, and he kept saying, Karen did you hear me? I have to leave now. a couple times, so then I turned around and just kind of mumbled, Yeah, bye. Probably did not follow DB protocol here, but I mean does he expect me to say "Have fun with OW? or something?
Sunday had a lot of positives DB wise for me I think. I was having a really good PMA day, feeling strong and happy for some reason. I did about 5 hours of cleaning, I mean even the walls and light fixtures! H has been nit-picking (I think it was GF who told me about this) and finding stuff to complain about, and there is nothing at this point for him to find! I have lost all extra weight (40-45 pounds) and with the 3 hour dance workouts am in pretty good shape. When we are together like yesterday, we are usually laughing and joking and having a good time.
Yesterday he bought us both fast food lunches, not a big deal, but something he hasn't done in several months for me, as a sign of his separation from me. He also took me out to dinner with the kids, something else he stopped doing a month or two ago. He told me he was proud of all the changes I've made in my life, he wishes I'd made them earlier, but it's still good I've made them now. He also said he would watch D8 during all my play performances at least 6-12 while D14 and I and working on the play.
The negatives are that after about 2 months of him not texting OW in front of me, he started doing that again yesterday. I have to believe he is trying to maybe push me away or create a fight with me which would help with his guilt, which I just don't want to do. I would like him to feel 100% of the guilt as I think he should when he moves out this Saturday. Karen
