Next Steps for W2G

[stella_k]

he feels he can really help me with sorting through it all because he knows me better than anyone else does.

Does he, W2G? Could you try and prove to him he doesn't know you at all and it will take him a lifetime to get to know you just a little bit ?

Now how to "use the positive step to help you keep up the good work you've been doing without having any expectations".

Here is my pretending game (bottled up :)).

I am living "as if" I was never married. I have a nice job, nice (well, sort of) house, beautiful and successful D and 2 lovable pets. And I am happy. I am in peace.
Now there is this Guy. I don't really know him but I think he's nice and I like the way he talks to me on the phone and I also think he's handsome. Recently he started to pay some attention to me.I never call him, he is always the one to call. I like it, of course, and I flirt back a little bit but I don't really know if I want him in my quiet and pleasant life. I must admit that it brightens my day to think of his advances but I'm not going out of my way to do anyththing about it. In any case, not until he makes it clear what's on his mind.

And so it goes - every positive sign, every baby step is a just pleasant addition to my pleasant (it's a pretending game, remember?) life. And it doesn't have much effect on my emotional well-being if there is none...

Actually, I start believing it myself!