My story, please help

[GavinO]

This BB is a great source of support, just read some of the successful men ones and there does seem to be the following theme:

Wife has everything she wants.

Wife decides she doesn't want it and starts to chuck it all in and is absolutely adamant.

Husband wonders WTF??

Husband does all of the don'ts (crying, begging, pressure, jumping up and down)

Wife feels supremely justified in ruining everything

Husband nails the forums and starts DBing

Husband makes genuine deep lasting changes

Wife ignores all and is still set (but still notices changes)

Husbands changes are maintained, Husband does not give up.

Wife gets a bit worse.

Husband maintains changes and does not give up.

Wife continues but seems to slow a bit.

Husband maintains changes and does not give up.

Wife falters a bit.

Husband maintains changes and does not give up.

Wife starts to wonder what she is doing.

Wife sees a bit of reason.

Wife comes back.

Husband gets wife back.

Stronger marriage.

lol.

I really doubt that W is having an affair, I believe that she is looking for a new man as such (WTF you have a husband here!!!).

I think that it is a combination of the relationship problems from the last year plus the 'lure' of the single life plus deadbeat friends plus drugs and booze. I am hoping she is having a bit of a nuts time and will come out of it soon.

It is just so not like her at all.

I suppose I just have to keep going and hope she comes to her senses.

She likes lots of attention but she will not let me do any of that at all at the moment, the only time I touched her in the last month was when she asked me to look at her head.

I have done 180's such as stopping chasing, I also do all of the housework and most of the washing, I have also gone out quite a few times.

This is nuts and really, really hard.

Thanks for listening