Posting to get things off my chest

[missmyfriend]

Cinders, it is hard to say this because initially it could sound bad but your kids like the OW because of how safe and secure and loving you are with your childen. People who trust others, like your children, do so because they feel it is safe to do so. It is a testament to you and with conflicted emotions to say that you have done such an awesome job with them that they can be loving to others, no matter their actions.

It hurts because you want them to not like people that hurt others. Initially it would feel better for them to despise her and say that she is ugly and all sort of negative things but we know that it hurts the person feeling this way far more than the targeted individual(s).

This is just a further example to me about how blind your husband is with his decisions. He and the OW will misunderstand the reason why your children are loving and accepting to others but the rest of us know it is how you are raising them.

I said this to Lis a while back (and it is so true of Lis)and it applies to you and many women on this board, Provers 21:38 "Her children arise up, and call her (their mother) blessed". As they say nice things about the OW or treat her with love, you can rest knowing that it is not because of her actions but because of your raising Godly children.

Thank you Cinders. With my W not being the mother my children need or deserve at this time, I need to see women like you out there that stand for their families. You are a blessing to me and so many others.