H is having affair after all

[saffie]

Someone said to me today, that to be in my house she must have felt very confident either in her self or the r?

I would think she just knew you weren't going to be there - nothing more nothing less. Can't school do something about the ski trip?

[Evie]

Jen - Prep school ski trip, leaves on the 20th. School can't do anything, unfortunately.

Am i to just lie down and accept all this quietly? She is one brazen bitch.

Have an appointment on Thursday with a counsellor.

[Evie]

i've had 4 emails and txts today...

I've had to send a message as he is accusing me of ignoring him, which i am, but now is the time to send a reply, i'm about to send this message:

'' your asking alot of questions and i know you want answers. I can't give you any answers right now. Please give me space''.

Any amendments you would make?

x

[Jen_Jam]

what questions is he asking you?

and thanks for clarification on the ski trip, a shame the school cannot "suggest" that either your H or she drop out.

[saffie]

I am shocked that morally the school will let this go ahead. I am sure if the parents' knew they wouldn't be very happy.

I'd tell him that he's been living with the knowledge of this A for many months and you need time to get your head round it.

[Evie]

instead of one message its been lots.

emails:
1.
H - have you made any decisions whether you will be working tomorrow, don't ignore this, we're talikng safety of children.
m - yes i'll be there to do admin, programme and teacher i'll leave to you.

H - D2 can cover bitches (my words not his) lessons.

2.
H - what did you think of Kate (new teaching assistant)yesterday? Can we use her in the future?

M - very smiley and friendly, never touched a child, not hands on, thats how she was taught. Why don't you bring her in on saturday and see her for yourself?

3.

H- I'm away with at a gala on friday, can i pick the boys up at 9.oo am on saturday.

M - i'll drop them off


Texts:

1.what time am i picking the boys up?

missed this txt as turned phone off when i got to work this am.
M -Answered it at 4pm and said just said, received your message, 7.45 am

H - is that everyday? If your driving can you drop them of at mine

M - yes i think so, not driving.

Jen - H or ow was going to withdraw. Now it appears that both are still going. I can't say to him that if she goes then S1 doesn't go can I and if h has already decided to go, he won't listen to a word i say. I'll just look an idiot if i say if she goes then s1 doesn't go, thats not fair on s1, just feel this is really sh*tty for want of a better word right now.

[Jen_Jam]

OK, I see. it's messages about work and the kids. I don't think you can ignore these ... if you did I can see how he might think you're keeping him from the kids. To me it looks like you'll have to live with these for now.

If, on the other hand, he strays into R talk, or starts to get angry, you are within your rights to say "no R talk" and if it's anger then something like "I'm sorry you feel angry at mt response. How would you prefer me to phrase responses".

I'm at home right now if you want to talk

[Evie]

Jen - i'm inbetween kids activities atm, maybe at 7.30ish if teh kids are behaving?

I can see what your saying about replying. Its all in place of conversations we would normally have, but this isn't normal atm its insignificant to me right now and I FEEL he is been too demanding, i want him to have a bit of compassion for me, i feel like saying make a decision yourself, stop asking me, but then he'll be wrong if he does that also.

I wish i could go into a black hole for a while, get my thoughts and strength togther and then face him.

Any advice about the ski trip, i feel they're both having the last laugh.

X Eve

[Evie]

Jen - did i also mention that s1 and ow sons are on the ski trip?

[Jen_Jam]

730 fine, but if you can't don't worry If I don't answer right away I may be syrine feeding Sophie.

The ski trip - outside of your control Yes I feel it would be wrong for them both to go, but they are hardly a pair to consdier the feelings of others and the consequences of their actions.