Nothing to add to what Ellie wrote. It was great...I just want to second that screwing yourself over likely won't help anything. Your wife is aware of your feelings for her and believe me, is not above using those feelings to her advantage.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
