Scripture and Faith

[missmyfriend]

Law
I can understand your frustration with your W not "listening" to your son's needs and concerns. My W has her masters in counseling and she has constantly tried to assess them instead of parent them. She doesn't listen to them.

The issue of "forcing" your spouse to step up instead of calling in sick is a tough one. I think you are doing what you think is best for the kids and it probably is.

I do have a question about your Ws time with your kids. Do they seem better after a visit with her or worse or is there any difference?

I agree law that there is no excuse to be lapse in parenting even in MLC. I think that is why I believe there is something more to MLC than simply selfishness. It is a complete change in personality as opposed as incremental or selective. It is almost on a scope, although not as dangerous, as a psychotic break. A person can be completely functional prior to a break and then it happens and the person is never the same again.

In a way, it is more insidious because it is not as obvious to those around them and appears less threatening but the peripheral damage that is causes is still evident.

tpaschal
Thanks for coming by. Please do so more often. I have read some of your posts in the past. I am trying to read more on the board again but I find myself slacking.

You have made excellent observations. As I was just sharing with law, MLC doesn't just effect the spouse. I do believe MLC is a symptom of something larger that is devastating to those around them. The challenge is that most of the MLCers "appear" to be normal, in that they are simply making life choices (oh how I hate that political correct phrase) which are good for them. The thing is that most of the time they have become less attentive parents, dropped long term friendships with others and, in many cases, have relationships with people that are not stable themselves. This implies that they are in a crisis and not making improvements.

Cinders
Hey little sis! I am sorry you had a rough weekend. I did too! Maybe we were in sync.

I did learn something this weekend. I think that I was not talking to the big guy in the right way. I was not listening to Him so I started last night before I went to bed changing that. This morning, I saw a business newspaper that is not spiritual at all and the title story in big lettering said "Faith Overcomes Fear". I picked it up and read the article about an extremely successful businessman (one of the most successful African Americans in the states) who credits his faith in God with his success in business, family and life, in general. You could tell that he could lose everything and he would still trust Him.

Coincidence? I don't think so.

Anyway, thank you for the vote of confidence but I know what I know and you have no idea how much you influence me positively!

And may God be with you too!