(((((Sandi))))) It's ok! Next time, just start a thread, with a title that will attract your audience. Then you only have to post it once, and the really interested people should find it! My guess is that it was the mass posting that was the problem, not the info itself, unless someone told you otherwise.
Thanks, I still haven't been told. I am just guessing by what AmyC said to the moderators that I didn't know what scamming was. And, I am still learning about how to do all the technology stuff that it did not occur to me to have a topic...duh!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
CINDERS...IVE BEEN VERY AMISS IN TALKING TO YOU. IAM SOOOO SORRY ABOUT YOUR DOG. I KNOW THE PAIN. ITS STILL VERY RAW ABOUT SMUDGIE. PLS KNOW THAT YOU HAVE BEEN IN MY THOUGHTS. IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO SAY TO YOU MY OWN PAIN AND LOSS CAME UP. BUT I HOPE YOU HAVE SURVIVED THE LOSS. IT REPRESENTS PART OF YOUR LIFE LOST AS WELL. KNOW I AM WITH YOU ALL THE WAY.
NOW ABOUT THAT WEEKEND?????
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
that means a lot to me. I know that when Smudgie passed away, you were deeply hurt. I still miss our dog, she was soft and kind, and well, I miss her soul.
Hope all is well, I sometimes pop in to check the boards, but mostly I am trying to live my life.
I have found myself a job from home, typing out a friend's interviews which will appear in a book at the end of the year. It's good to keep busy.
My H is not planning to come back. He is happy. So be it. Hopefully one day, I will be able to look back on this and not hurt as much. For now the pain is still raw, the kids love ow...I feel like Althea did many many months ago....Who knows I may just grow up to be just like her in time !
Take care and thank you for thinking of me x
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I know the pain regarding the kid's feelings for the OW.
I am hear to tell you though that eventually they see her for her true colors.
My kids could not say enough about OW. She is pretty, kind, smart, and dad just loves her.
Now they are not sure. "She does spend a lot of dad's money." "They don't seem to get along as well as they use to." "She has a lot of acne". "She is a little scary without her makeup"
Hang in there.... You will see
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hey Cinders....I miss your posts....you are in my thoughts....take care, everything will work out like it is supposed to. I hope you are taking care of yourself....keep us posted.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Cinders, it is hard to say this because initially it could sound bad but your kids like the OW because of how safe and secure and loving you are with your childen. People who trust others, like your children, do so because they feel it is safe to do so. It is a testament to you and with conflicted emotions to say that you have done such an awesome job with them that they can be loving to others, no matter their actions.
It hurts because you want them to not like people that hurt others. Initially it would feel better for them to despise her and say that she is ugly and all sort of negative things but we know that it hurts the person feeling this way far more than the targeted individual(s).
This is just a further example to me about how blind your husband is with his decisions. He and the OW will misunderstand the reason why your children are loving and accepting to others but the rest of us know it is how you are raising them.
I said this to Lis a while back (and it is so true of Lis)and it applies to you and many women on this board, Provers 21:38 "Her children arise up, and call her (their mother) blessed". As they say nice things about the OW or treat her with love, you can rest knowing that it is not because of her actions but because of your raising Godly children.
Thank you Cinders. With my W not being the mother my children need or deserve at this time, I need to see women like you out there that stand for their families. You are a blessing to me and so many others.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
