Isn't it all about feeling that you as the LBS are the better option? About being true to yourself and building yourself a life you feel happy and comfortable with and THEN if the WAS happens to want to buy back into that and you want to have them back hopefully the M is saved. I almost see saving the M as a byproduct rather than the main item.
I don't think the changes we implement mean we can't slip up either. Hopefully you will have learnt to communicate if you reconcile and so can deal with things as they crop up and you now know that being complacent about one's M can be very dangerous.
Having said all that I do grieve for the feeling of 'ease' that the first portion of my M had. I do feel that things are not the same. I will always be sad that the exclusivety of our M was thrown away; that can never be recovered; that bell has been rung.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
