sorry, mini hijack AG, I know you are not a D attorney but I wanted to ask you something. I will be talking to a D lawyer later on this week, but H wanted to know if I could give him today (well, he's been asking for this since last week) a piece of paper that states he left by mutual agreement on the day he actually left so that I dont' accuse him of abandonment further down the line.
Would that hurt me in any way?
Cat, I read this on AG's thread and I have a gut reaction to urge you to stop protecting this man. He is trying to manipulate you the way he has always done. You need to focus on protecting yourself and your children so please do not sign anything or agree to anything to "help" him.
He wants to have this experience without consequences and though it is not up to you to inflict consequences, there simply ARE consequences to his choices and he will experience them. Don't baby him.
When he asks you these things (and I suspect this won't be the last such "request", tell him something vague like "I'll have to think about that" or "I'll have to consult my L" or whatever. Could be that is enough to make him stop asking. You need to nip these manipulative behaviors in the bud and begin to change the pattern that has caused you such heartache.
