I have struggled with being the best possible person know for weeks. SOmetime feeling fake and miserable at biting my tongue...just agreeing and listening to H. I am not sure that this appraoch is going to work for me. It's totally the opposite of who I am. Even in the beginning of our relationship I was strong willed....so being suzy homemaker and changing me as a person to attempt to compete with OW makes me feel horrible. I think I need to be me....just aware of how my actions make him feel and try to improve in the areas that are necessary but always staying true to who I am.
And the bottomline....I want H back because he wants to be.....not because I guilt him into it.....Plus I can't compete with somethine new......that's impossible and even trying to do that makes you feel like a failure.
Focusing on yourself, detaching from the H insanity is the best thing. For me!!! and always keeping in mind that everyone one of us has our own unique situations and although we can draw from others experiences we need to be smart with the advice we take......we know our sitch the best and can be the only ones to ultimately know what to do that may improve our happiness!
M 37 H 37 Married 2yrs (together 7yrs) Son 4yrs old and H has Daughter 11 yrs old H involved with OW since Jan 08 and still seeing OW Still under same roof, but H spending more time with OW as time goes on
