Thanks Tree...but I am not thinking of it as "playing" anything!
I am really just being very aware of what brings us closer together and what pushes us apart.
Over the past couple of weeks I have really learned what she likes and doesn't like.
LIKES: - gifts - me acting slightly detached (which I am) - seeing me breaking stereotypes that she has of me - me spending money on myself (I am a cheapskate) - R talk (but only when she initiates it) - seeing my GAL activities
DISLIKES: - too much contact, email, phone, text - me planning too much stuff for us to do - excessive romance (I am letting her lead for now) - too much talk of "our future" - ANYTHING that can be perceived by her as pressure or pushing
So, I am just trying to do more of what she likes, and doing less of what she dislikes. But I am not JUST doing it for her to 'get her back', I am simply very aware of these behaviors, and stacking the deck in my favor.
I am genuine in my feelings for her, and genuine in how good I think we can be, once we are back together. I am not trying to trick her into anything, just being sensitive to her needs and wants.
So....let's see how today goes. Because today is all we really have, isn't it?
