IT HURTS, damn it, im angry that it hurts, I shouldn't care anymore, they are both worthless, ow tried to mess with his job ,friends, insulted the kids, is/was pretty much a paid whore and STILL!!!! It makes me feel worthless, that he'd prefer to be with someone like that, as if I wastn' his w of 10 yrs, all that down the gutter. While still w/me he'd confessed how disgusted he was she was whoring herself but still angry and hurt that she was doing that, he didnt' say it, but prob felt jelous.
I feel for you Cat. Trust me though, it doesn't matter if she is a yucky toothless Ho or a pretty, talented PhD professor at Yale--it hurts all the same. It's not about us my dear or the ow, it's about them...our stupid-head husbands (or exH's). We are worth way more than being cheated on, whether it be for a young model, a hairy troll, a brilliant scholar--makes no difference. A cheater is a messed up dude who has a messed up moral compass and who is likely to continue to cheat until he decides he doesn't want to be such a slime bag anymore. I have come to the conclusion that my own particular stupid-head did me a favor when he left.
Sorry you are in pain, but I bet you are going to feel better soon--especially because you are doing things for yourself. I went to the gym yesterday--had to drag myself over there of course, but afterwards it felt so good. Keep doing good and nurturing things for yourself. Something as simple as cooking a wholesome meal for you and the kids is such a pick-me up.
