I am hardly an expert on piecing and am not even sure how long I will be here since H occassionally talks about how he is looking for his own apartment. But I will share with you what I have figured out so far. My H "moved out" on 1/2/08 and stayed with the OW for 4 weeks (he was coming home to shower and eat lunch during the day). He came back on 2/1/08 and has been at home ever since.
I learned that things happen really slowly in piecing. H may not be over the OW and you can't expect him to just totally end all feelings for her quickly. You live as roommates and at times feel like you are walking on eggshells because talking about the R and M are out of the question. Really in a lot of ways you have to keep on with the DB stuff. You have to GAL and have a PMA, but it can be hard because he is there with you and you don't get a break from it like you did when he was away.
Take things one day at a time. Understand that you are going to backslide and have difficult days and moments. But if it ends up saving your marriage, then it was worth it in the end.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
