ROOT,

Brilliant first post on this thread.

What I find interesting is that if the OW or OM can't live up to being the "better option", why should we?

Isn't DB-ing, partly, about being the "better option"?

Can we really rescue a marriage by being "the best possible" person we can be? Furthermore, can we really live under the psychic burden that our changes need to be permanent and that we really can't slip up anymore?

Dunno...made me think.

--Theoden