New lease on life

[Dr LOve]

Last I heard he was "over seas"
I got caught up in some goverment thing trying to send him a link.

Dr Love

[Larrynarry]

Howdy all!!

I'm alive and well!! My D's and I are doing very well.

Unfortunately, nothing regarding my sitch has changed. W is still dating OM, and we are working on filing the final papers for the Big D.

I've accepted it and have started to enjoy life. I no longer get that sick feeling in my stomach when I think of my W... I honestly don't think of her much anymore unless something happens with the kids.

She's still very selfish and lies all the time. Not much I can do about it anymore. I've dated a little.. nothing serious... not interested in that. This of course has infuriated my W. Not sure why. She recently took OM to her Dad and Stepmom's in VA. She also turned down the cats saying she wasn't sure she could have them. Turns out... her BF bought her a new kitten. How sweet. She also screwed me over taxes. We were supposed to work together and split the difference, but she said "screw him.. I want my money" I owe what she got back.. funny how that worked.

All in all, I'm not bitter... I just want it to be over. There is so much distance between us on so many different levels that I'm not sure if we'd ever get back together. She still says "you never know what's going to happen" but yet she tells OM she loves him and still lies about me to everyone.

I'm keeping an even keel as far as her and I.. I only go off when it involves the kids and that's how it should be.

I'm having a ton more fun... freedom is nice. Just didn't really want to pay this price.

Thanks to all for checking up on me... I'll poke around and see how you all are doing!!

[nutfarmer]

Glad to see you are well Jar. Sorry about the taxes--you probably expected it. Divorce is an adversarial process.

Take care of you and your girls.

Nut

[Michael Mc C]

It seems you're in a good place Jar, given the circumstances. Very happy to hear that your W isn't interfering with you being able to live and enjoy your life. Take care of those kids and yourself (and it sounds like you're doing just that).

It sucks that it has come to this but hold your head up high knowing that you put your all into doing what you felt was right.

[Pamar]

Jarhead,

Glad to hear you are the stable influence for the children. Funny that w can get so upset that you are dating - is there an unwritten rule that means you have to stay in and wait for her?

[nutfarmer]

The rule is...you need to remain available to me so that if this thing with OM or the next OM doesn't work out I can come running home to daddy.